HAPPINESS MADE SIMPLE?

This blog post postulates the question of happiness e.g. its form, function and the possible underlying mechanisms. 

Some people can be uncomfortable repeatedly (every year to every month); they can feel empty, have an urge, an itch or the need for something, anything ... just to feel FULL? 

This could include needing food and objects, to even jumping from relationship to relationship, or the constant need for attention from anyone ... just to feel that tad bit happier.

If you're not happy in your own skin, afraid of being alone and doing your own thing then sinking into depression may be common...

If you're not getting a source of constant love and admiration from another in order to feel happy ... well, perhaps.. just perhaps ... you are not balanced? 

Science can only tell you so much... you can have all the knowledge of a person or humans and their behaviours ... but you can never truly understand it.... many just JUDGE it.  

Can the quality of a lived experience be measured and quantified so another can really UNDERSTAND and not just know it? 

OK, so let's look at the SCIENTIFIC perspective..... 

Try to be a bit more CRITICAL to all the scientific evidence? 

Is there  a more holistic view towards  happiness? 

Facts from different cultures are insightful; however, how about the  PHILOSOPHY of it all????? 

SO happiness can be embodied in 1+ perceptions, ways and possible models!!!  Best to perhaps tackle them all??? 

PUT SIMPLY: It is not about doing it in a SET MANNER e.g. the pursuit of happiness.

But it may be more: being mentally aware, e.g. to think about oneself, love oneself and self validate actively.

Perhaps it's this rather than being on autopilot doing things that we may feel bring us happiness.... which can become a maladaptive cycle that can lead to the repeated feeling or mistakes that something is missing. 

Is it a solidified unknown? Perhaps it's less unknown if one allows themselves to be just as they are? 

 

SEX, SIGNS & SEXUALITY 

From friends with benefits to sexual attraction, we all tend to have a lay person's understanding. But what does the real science support & which is a fad or myth?

 

ASEXUALITY? 

Asexuality has to do with the lack of sexual attraction to other people, but they can/cannot still enjoy the act of sex. People who are asexual can have low, normal, or high sex drives.

During SEXUAL RELEASE from an ASEXUAL DRIVE, they can be emotionally connected before developing sexual attraction. 

 

 

However an ASEXUAL with a HIGH LIBIDO can be not sexually attracted to the person mentally, but may merely perform sexual acts as  a release from sexual drive, therefore it’s a biological need not a sexual attraction.

 

Perhaps approaching relationships in this manner gains a greater sexual control & empowerment to respect an individual before being intimate. 

 

PUT SIMPLY: perhaps it can be a positive for de-cluttering all the drama merely being physically attracted to a person, by truly respecting another for who they internally are. 

 

 

 

We have all had experiences with the occasional wink, intense gaze or some possibly unnecessary hair flicking. Science can support the fact that non-verbal attraction is not as simple as we think.

 

 

 

 

But perhaps it is better to assess the person individually & not process a cookie cutter bias that may lead to an incorrect opinion of another person's intentions.    

The above is just a bespoke view on cross sex relations, inferred from several studies and research articles etc. HOWEVER, to be critical, as always please feel free to comment any differences in opinion.